Dear Annie: Last month, I took my grandkids to a water park. While I was watching the crowds, I noticed a man with a boy who looked to be around 12 years old crouched behind a picnic table. Dear Annie:
Dear Annie: Last month, I took my grandkids to a water park. While I was watching the crowds, I noticed a man with a boy who looked to be around 12 years old crouched behind a picnic table.
They looked as if they were waiting for someone to come by so they could jump up and startle the person. What I found odd was that the man kept pulling the boy into his lap, putting his arms all the way around the boy’s waist. The boy tried to pull away, but the man kept pulling him back. Then, the man leaned forward and gently kissed the boy on the back. The boy bolted. A little later, I saw the man, the boy and a woman in a pool where the boy was floating on an inner tube, and the man had his hand on the boy’s behind.
At one point, I saw the woman by herself and asked whether she and the man were married. She told me they had been married for eight years, so I don’t know whether the man was the boy’s father or not. I told her I had misinterpreted something I saw, but since she was married to the man, I was probably mistaken. I felt like a fool.
If she had been dating this guy, I would have told her the whole story. Should I have approached her or just minded my own business? — Plainview, Texas
Dear Texas: Married or not doesn’t matter. But it is not a simple thing to interpret such actions. The man may have molested the boy previously, which would explain the child’s reaction. But it is also possible that the man was simply trying to show affection to his stepson, and the boy was resisting, as many 12-year-olds would.
You were not wrong to speak up, and we would have suggested telling the mother more specifically of your concerns so she could be aware of the situation. If she is upset with you, it is a small price to pay for potentially protecting this boy.
Dear Annie: My mother lets the dog lick from our plates and pans. She has no problem with this, but it disgusts me. I realize everything gets washed in hot water afterward, but still, I don’t want to eat off a plate that the dog ate off of. Thoughts? — Chicago
Dear Chicago: Believe it or not, if the plates are washed in soap and hot water after the dog licks them, they are clean enough to be used. And we doubt you could convince your mother otherwise. Even though it is sufficiently sanitary, you obviously object to the idea of it, so we suggest you scrub each plate to your satisfaction before eating off it.
Dear Annie: I have a solution for “Maria in Ohio,” who asked how to word wedding invitations when the parents are divorced and remarried to others. This is how our family now handles things:
“Together with their parents, Bride Jane’s name and Groom Joe’s name invite you to share in their joy as they exchange wedding vows,” followed by the date, time and location.
This is the format, no matter who is paying for the event or how much, and it doesn’t matter how many parents or stepparents are involved. (When did life get so complicated?) — B.S.
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